love is revolutionary. but have you ever loved someone that you no longer liked?
that someone can be yourself.
love doesn’t make a marriage last. it shouldn’t. think about it. love doesn’t make one stay at their job for decades although the conditions are horrible.
it’s time for us to work on LIKING ourselves.
we cannot effectively love others until we love ourselves, we agree. we cannot smile every day and have healthy feelings knowing we don’t love ourselves at the same time.
but that’s a huge challenge if we don’t LIKE who we are.
we cannot fully accept them if we don’t fully accept ourselves.
liking yourself is difficult. we can love how we love others. we can love how selfless we are. we can love how well we cook. but if you don’t like yourself, loving yourself is a gear you won’t ever shift to. you’ll stall out every time.
CONFIDENCE VS SELF ESTEEM.
confidence can be built with the help of others. that’s not a bad thing. if you jump and others say WOW YOU JUMP REALLY HIGH. YOU SHOULD TRAIN AND ENTER THE OLYMPICS. YOU REALLY HAVE A SPECIAL SKILL, that will enhance your confidence. something happened and someone or others solidified you. confidence is highly critical in life. you tell yourself you can do something because you’ve done it before.
self esteem tells you you can do something because it’s you. self esteem is built in the room, in the gym, in the office, by yourself. self esteem is needed. lack of self esteem will prevent you from doing things although you have a certain confidence level. self esteem is a you thing. it’s from within. one can strip you of confidence. others can preach and hype you up that you can jump really high and should enter the Olympics. and you might believe THEM. you might think you really have a skill. but you don’t believe in YOU. you don’t have the esteem to go through with it. one cannot take your self esteem away.
self esteem tells you with or without them, you’re the best and can do it.
you can have confidence without self esteem.
confidence tells you you’re smart. you know that. others tell you you’re the best in this arena. but if you have no self esteem, you won’t commit to it.
confidence tells you you’re fine. you KNOW you look good. you see how everyone looks at you. but self esteem tells you to wear it or not.
LET’S GET TO WORK.
LOVING yourself is important. but what comes first, the chicken or the egg?
LIKING yourself fuels your LOVE.
write down the things you LOVE about yourself. ask yourself is it because others told you and that prompted it. because if so, if someone no longer tells you that, there goes your confidence. it goes with them.
write down things you LIKE about yourself. ask yourself why you like it. ask yourself “can anyone take this away?”
i know you can think of them, but write them down. if you cannot write down ten things, work on ten things until you can.
you are a great person. you might not be perfect and some might not really like you. i know you wanted THAT group or THAT person to like you, but how about you start liking you. once you do that, nobody can tell you anything.
work on liking your stomach. liking your hair. liking your hands. liking the way you think. liking your teeth. liking your ideas. liking your fashion. your heritage. your people. you say you love your people but don’t even like them?
God made you to be YOU. embrace yourself.
and then, love yourz.
you are enough. i promise you. you are enough.
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